I have opinions.
I have one on…everything.
Well, almost everything.
Anyone who knows me knows that.
You can probably gather that just by browsing this site lol.
And sometimes I get a little feisty.
Hey, I own it.
What I am not, however, is a sucker.
Not for advertising.
Not for marketing scams.
I’m certainly not a blind follower of social “rules”.
With that being said, I will let you in on a little secret:
I’m also a romantic.
And that, my friends, is why I think Valentine’s Day is a fool’s “holiday” and a total waste of the concept of a “special” day.
Valentine’s Day Is A Cash Grab
Just as a disclaimer, I feel the same way even when I do have someone in my life at this time of the year so it’s not that I’m being bitter at being single!
Why would a supposed romantic be against the concept of Valentine’s Day?
The reasons are simple, yet many.
The first thing I hate about this supposed holiday is how, counter to the popular saying “money can’t buy love”, everything about celebrating the day revolve around buying gifts.
The overriding message is you can win your lady’s heart with jewelry or cars.
Hell, Jennifer Lopez had the balls to write a song called “Love Don’t Cost a Thing”… I wonder what would happen if her boyfriend/husband just gave her a card with a balloon and a rose.
That leads into the next thing I can’t stand: the blatant hypocrisy.
For so long women have fought to have the same rights as men on every level.
Then, why do so many of them sit back and accept the shit put out there by all of the money-makers that the man should be showering the woman with gifts?
Where are the commercials of the women giving the men a fancy new Breitling or a car?
And where are all the women’s groups protesting now!?
And why are past acts of douchery seemingly forgiven?
It’s like a guy or woman can be a neglectful asshole or bitch for 364 days, but if they go out of their way to do something special on this one day…BAM!… all is magically forgiven.
Or at least that’s how it appears to work.
It’s not just the money, or social issues that annoy me, it’s the core relationship stuff more than anything.
Valentine’s Day Isn’t Anything Special
I have a hard time wrapping my head around why there is so much fuss over this particular day and the things it represents:
- Why can’t any random day be special? What’s wrong with March 17? Or August 8th? Or better yet…
- Why is it a once a year thing for so many people? Having a special date night each month or even each week set aside is too much hassle perhaps?
- You can’t tell someone you love them every day and have it mean as much or more?
- Proposing or getting married on February 14th isn’t even romantic. It’s lame, predictable and overdone.
- Don’t you want your partner to know that they’re special and loved all the time?
- Wouldn’t you want to know that you are occupying someone else’s thoughts at random times, not just a day when it’s forced upon them?
Seriously, since when is actually caring for someone with all of your heart not enough?
No, now it’s like we’re being told that if you don’t go out and buy fancy jewelry or even a car that you really don’t care as much as you could f you did those things.
While I’m a big fan of doing things “just because”, wouldn’t this grand gesture day be better suited happening on a day that actually means something?
Perhaps the day you first met
Maybe commemorating the first date?
Pretty much anything rather than a day that really has no meaning and when everyone else is doing something similar!
I’m not against romance, quite the opposite in fact.
I’m for genuine romance.
The kind that is spontaneous.
The kind that comes from the heart, not from marketers.
The kind of genuine romance that leaves someone at a loss for words.
Not this commercialized, manufactured, nonsensical crap.
Don’t wait for some far-off day, show the special person in your life how you feel right now! Go send them something from ProFlowers and get a 15% discount! Better yet, send them something from the heart from Personalization Mall (and save 20% with code miles20)!
If you’re still looking for that special someone, try eHarmony. It’s not like those free services where you don’t know if the person is real or not. There’s a reason it’s the highest rated site for finding relationships!
Maybe you want to control who you match with (pun absolutely intended!) give match.com a shot! It’s the largest platform so you know there will be a lot of potential matches on Match (yup, another one 😝).
If you’re more “seasoned, you can always head over to Our Time. It’s a mature dating site where everyone is 50+. Over at Our Time the people are at the point where they are looking for someone to make it “our time” to date.
Lastly, if you’re more religious and prefer to date someone with the same beliefs, you have JDate and ChristianMingle as options to meet your soulmate!
Do you buy into the whole V-Day thing, making elaborate plans or grand gestures simply because it’s “socially required”. Do you take the other approach and express your feelings whenever and for no specific reason other than wanting to? Or, have you given up on love, period?